In order to overcome limiting beliefs and replace them with new empowering beliefs for success, you first need to understand what they are – here you get an in-depth guide with easy steps to start building new beneficial core beliefs. Core beliefs are the beliefs that people have about themselves. These can be negative, such as the beliefs that other people are better than you, or that you’re not good enough for something or somebody.
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However, core beliefs can also be positive. You may have generally positive opinions about yourself, with just a few negative beliefs which are getting in the way of your life in some way. Core beliefs are the beliefs that we hold about ourselves and may be generally negative or generally more positive.
Why understanding core beliefs can help with so many other things
While it’s good to talk about your problems and the things which are stressing you out at the moment, many people underestimate the importance and the value of getting down to the root of the cause. Many problems are caused by core beliefs about yourself that you haven’t even though about, never mind thought about changing.
When you start to think about your core beliefs, your mind will open up to other things too. You will start to think about how your negative thoughts on body image have contributed to your negative opinions of yourself at work or your lack of confidence in the workplace. You might find that you behave differently in certain situations or around certain people, and this could be done to experiences you have had in the past or during your childhood which have shaped many of your beliefs.
Core beliefs are a key part of each person’s mind, and in order to fully understand yourself and analyse what you’re thinking, you need to understand your core beliefs first. With this in mind, we may start exploring our limiting beliefs and replace them with new empowering beliefs for success.
What is a Limiting Belief?
A limiting belief is a belief about yourself which limits you in some way. It could be about your ability to do something, your likelihood of being loved by somebody or your chances of getting a job you really want. If you’re believing something which puts a limitation on yourself, that’s a limiting beliefs. These beliefs can put constraints on you and your life and make you feel as though you’re less than other people or you won’t accomplish your goals.
Examples of limiting beliefs
If you’re starting to think that this sounds familiar and you might have some limiting beliefs, let’s take a look at some common examples.
“I can’t do it”: This is one of the most common limiting beliefs and can creep in to our lives when we are children. If you hear children saying this, it’s important to correct them with a positive line. This could either be, “You can’t do it…yet!” or you can reinforce the idea that they can do it!
“I’m not good enough”: Whether it’s our qualifications, our bodies, our minds, our faces or our salaries, not feeling good enough is a common emotion which we are all likely to have experienced at some point. This feeling, however, will be much stronger in your mind than in the mind of anyone else around you, so try to turn this around and stay positive rather than being negative and limiting yourself.
Why are limiting beliefs bad?
You might think you’re being realistic, and there is definitely a lot to be said for realism and maintaining a sensible course of action. However, limiting beliefs are different because they don’t even offer the opportunity to achieve your goals. Rather than reinforcing positive emotions and encouraging yourself to work harder towards a goal, you’re giving up and telling yourself that you can’t do it, you won’t be good enough, or somebody else will do it instead.
Limiting beliefs can stop you from going after what you really want, and in the long run, they can severely damage your self-esteem and confidence. You’ll start to regret letting your limiting beliefs take over, which in turn could create even more limiting beliefs.
In the end, letting go of your limiting beliefs and changing the narrative can help you to understand more about yourself and go for the goals that you thought were out of reach.
How Do You Change Negative Self Beliefs?
Thinking positively about yourself isn’t something that you can do naturally, unless of course you’re a very positive person and you (rightly) have a very positive opinion of yourself. A lot of people, however, struggle to think positively about themselves, and as a result, they end up with a series of negative self beliefs which limit their progress and cause them to lose confidence. These negative self beliefs often begin to occur as children, but they can creep in as adults even after the most confidence and happy of childhoods. Here are some of the things you can do to change any negative self beliefs.
- Change your approach
If you’ve become used to thinking negatively about a new experience or an exciting new opportunity, turn this around and start to think positively. Next time you’re told at work that you’re being sent to a new location to speak with a difficult client, embrace it with open arms and appreciate that you’re being trusted by your employers! There’s always a positive side if you look close enough, and sometimes you don’t even need to look that much closer.
- Stop judging yourself
We can all have the tendency to judge ourselves a little bit too harshly, whether this is over our appearance, our talents, our skills, our experience or our performance. In order to get rid of your negative self beliefs, you need to stop judging yourself and think about the positive things that there are about you. If you can’t think of any, ask your friends and family as they will definitely be able to each give you one positive thing. You can then start to write a list, as well as concentrating on some of the way you can build your self-esteem and self-awareness.
- Understand why you have negative beliefs
This could be a step which is much further down the process, but it’s different for each person. Understanding why you have negative beliefs can help you to eliminate them and start thinking positively. If you realize that the reason you have so many negative beliefs about yourself is because of a bad experience you had when you were a child, you can start to shake this off and realize that you wouldn’t believe these things were it not for your bad experience.
A few simple steps will put you well on your way to changing the way you think about yourself and eliminating your negative self beliefs from your mind.
How Do You Overcome Limiting Beliefs?
Once you’ve established that you have limiting beliefs which are stopping you from achieving what you want, you can start to take steps to overcome them. It’s not easy and quick to overcome limiting beliefs, particularly if it’s something you’ve been believing for as long as you can remember. Changing something around so drastically requires time and effort, but with the right mindset and support, there’s nothing to stop you.
Try to decide why you believe it
People have limiting beliefs without even realizing why or where they have come from. A lot of the time, limiting beliefs have been created as a person has been growing up – their parents have reinforced an idea enough times that it has remained in the person’s mind for their entire life without question. If you can try to understand why you believe something, that’s a good first step. You might then realize that you have no idea why you believe it and you shouldn’t believe it at all!
Realize that your beliefs are not you
Just because you’ve ended up believing something doesn’t mean that this is it forever now. You can change your beliefs at any point, so if you’re worried about backtracking, you have every right to do so. Developing as a person is just as much about growing and learning as it is about developing your beliefs and opinions, and if these change over time, that can be a good thing.
Differentiate between your beliefs and how you identify
Just because you don’t want to be something doesn’t mean that you can’t do it. It also doesn’t mean that you have to do it, but if you find yourself making excuse based on the fact that you just don’t think you can do something, this can be an example of a limiting belief.
It’s much more honest and upfront with yourself and others to say that you don’t want to do something, rather than that you can’t do it. Believing and saying that you can’t do something is constantly reinforcing to yourself that there are plenty of things you can’t do and you’re not as good as somebody else who can do it.
Do something different
To break out of the cycle of your limiting beliefs, do something different one day. Push yourself past the boundaries and out of your comfort zone. You never know what might happen.
New Empowering Beliefs
If you want to be successful, the first step is believing that you will be successful! Going into a new business, a new career, a new venture or a new campaign believing that you’ll probably fail is never a good start. Instead, think positive, embrace the future and start thinking about some empowering beliefs which will drive you on. Here you have five examples of empowering beliefs for success.
- The future is exciting, not scary
It’s not unusual to believe that the future is scary and you should be afraid of it. Many people share this belief, but that doesn’t mean it’s true. Yes, the future holds things that we don’t know about, but this should be viewed as exciting, not scary.
- You can do it
A phrase which should be reinforced all the way through our lives, the belief that you can do this can get you a long way. After all, what makes you less likely to do it than somebody else? This can eliminate many of the negative thoughts that you have about yourself at work, in relationships or with your family.
- Failure just means you can try again next time
The fear of failure is one of the main reasons why people avoid taking on new challenges. If you’re a perfectionist or you have a fear of failure, this could be a terrifying thought for you. However, once you realize that not getting something quite right the first time often means you can try again and do better, you don’t have to worry too much about getting something wrong.
- Overcoming a challenge is a success
If you can find a way to love a new challenge and try your best to succeed, you won’t be afraid of challenges and you’ll be feeling empowered all the way. Rather than thinking about the failures and what could go wrong, think about the excitement and success of overcoming a difficult challenge. This is often very rewarding for many people, and can be a driving force in any successful venture.
- Never stop being your best
If you’re performing at your best, there’s nothing more you can do. Nothing should feel more empowering than performing and working at your best, knowing that you’re doing everything you can to be on the road to success. Reinforcing this message to yourself each and every day means that you will keep on being the best person you can be, without comparing yourself to anybody else.
Do you have any tips or beliefs to add to my list of five examples of empowering beliefs for success? Please share in the comments!